Sincere compliments that come from your heart can mean more to your partner than most anything else. “SINCERE” being the key!!! Words hold more power than what we were told as children (sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me).
Having something said to us derogatory can be the first of many blows that create negative feelings. When most people first fall in love or become involved, they tend to watch what they say and be more complimentary. As time passes, the compliments tend to slow to a crawl and we become less cautious of our partners feelings. Understanding your partner and what is important to them can really amplify their feelings positively or negatively.
Take a challenge and test the theory…
Find 2 or 3 things that you sincerely like about your partner, focus on them and pay that person at least one compliment per day for one week. This alone can ease tensions and create warmth. Keep in mind, these compliments have to be completely sincere and from your deepest beliefs and heart. Anything less will be detected and may fall on deaf ears.
Example –
I find my partner irresistibly beautiful… not just physically but as a person as well. I focus on how much I admire and love that person, as well as how attracted to her I am. I have a catalog of traits, reasons and attributes that I adore about this person (great cook, great Mom, very kind, very generous, takes care of herself and her family, loves my family – get the picture?) Because I believe this in my very soul (and I choose to “focus” on these aspects), I express my feelings to her daily with open expression and sincerity. Again, because I truly believe this, it is expressed in a sincere manner.
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